I cut myself and I want to tell my parents but I dont think that they would understand why I do it. They know that I am having some problems at the moment because I ran away from my boarding school with some friends coz we were so fed up of everything there and we couldnt take it any more. My school said that I had to go to see a councellor before I go back-which I did but I didnt say anything about how depressed I feel and about my cutting. How do I tell them now?

Im so happy that you have admitted that you need to tell your parents about your problem. I cut myself too, and unfortunately, my parents found out the hard way. The best thing to do is to sit down your parents and be honest with them. They may be upset at first...but it's hard for them...they want to see their precious child happy and not depressed. But when we cut ourselves, it makes them feel like its their fault and they are failing as parents.

Just be patient and calm with them,,,and hopefully they will have you getting help asap.



Best of luck, and if you need any more advice, feel free to email!

Hi



If you feel that you want to tell them then that is great.  I would advise that you tread carefully though as they are not likely to understand why you do this.



These links may help



Self harm: A guide for young people:


http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Bookl...




Understanding self harm:


http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Bookl...




the information is easy to read and understand.



It may help you as there are some tips on things that you can do when you feel like harming yourself.



I'd suggest that you ask your parents to read these links as well.  They can then get an insight into why people do this and hopefully they will realise that it isn't something that just you do, but that others do too.



It will also show that you are asking them for help about a matter which is serious to you.



Hope this helps.

sit them both down and tell them everything from the beginning, and be brutally honest, they're not going to be mad at you, but be prepared for them to get upset that you're doing that to yourself.  Just remember they are your parents and love you very much and they will help you deal w/ this and in the end it will make your relationship stronger.  Good luck in your recovery.

You may be surprised but your parents know more about the world than we realise. Please tell them as soon as possible talk to the parent that you feel most comfy with first. If they show anger it would only be out of love for you. Good parents offer unconditional love no matter what has happened. Please remember things feel so much better once they are out in the open. Go and see a counsellor as they will offer you an unbiased support system to help you through this patch of your life. Good luck I hope that with time things work out.

you must tell them if it was my daughter i would be distraught if she felt she couldn't tell me something so serious. also how can you get help if you wont tell anyone how you are feeling. I know from experience that once you've said it out loud to someone you feel allot better like you've started on the road to recovery already.

just be honest & tell the 100% truth.

sit them down and explain to your parents why you cut yourself and how it makes you feel

then they can learn to understand why you do it and help you through it.

maybe start by telling your mom first like have a girl chat & tell her then maybe she can tell your dad.

good luck babes xx

You know..

you're the only person who can really decide this on your own.

It's kind of hard to answer a question like this being that..

i don't know the whole situation.

You should pray about it.

and i'm no bible beater. believe me..

but god can take huge things like this off your heart.

and he can put thought in your head on the right thing to do.

good luck dear



-Whitnie

You need to sit them down and slowly come out and talk about the way your feeling. Just be like, I'm sorry but the results of my depression has led me to do this..and than show them your wrists. And just see what they say and take it from there... Expect them to be mad and try to be strong. Good luck xxo <3

School is a prison with forced labor.I know how you feel because i felt like it also long time ago.Too much control and too little freedom.Try to tell only one of your parents.The one who you feel closest with.Practice what you are going to say if you have to.