I dont know if I am depressed or something, and people might mock me because of it. So appropriate answers only please.



I am 19 and been out of work for a year, I have tried to get a job and had no luck. Luckily im going on a course, but recently I am PETRIFIED of ageing. The other night I couldnt sleep, there was an old couple on the TV and I started to cry cause im so scared of getting old and losing loved ones. Its all I think about when I go to sleep at night, i cant even look at old people anymore and when I do my heart starts beating fast and I start getting scared and thinking about just getting old and not being able to do the things I do now. How can I stop feeling like this, What is wrong with me?

Is there really such a thing as normal?  Everyone worries from time to time. It's not what you worry about, but the length of time you take dwelling on it. We have only one life to life, so waste to much time worry. Enjoy, Be positive, Learn to appreciate the little things, Smile it might make somebody elses day. I think you get where i'm coming from. Your special and here for a reason, so Celebrate life! You never know when your ships coming in. Good Luck Kiddo!

Let the professionals help you.  Get a doctor to diagnose your problem and let them help you.  The can perscribe meds or just give you information on coping.  Don't let your fears ruin your life.  Your best years are ahead of you, you don't want to waste them.  Death and aging are inevitable, so it is a waste of time worrying about it!

i understand the 1st part but not being able to look im sorry ... ive also felt sad about people/pets dieing etc.. but at the end of the day just think that youve got plenty more time to live your life to its full potential





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you need to get a hobby or something. but remeber you don't want to be normal. normal people are boring. be abnormal and weird. it's alot more fun!!!

nooooooooooooooooooooo u rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr just quite sensitiveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

The fact that you know you are not feeling like yourself is the most important symptom.



Everyone goes through a 'Blue' period and the difficulty of trying to find a job can only add to it. I can't say what you are feeling is 'normal' but at the same time it's not unheard of. The paranoia you are beginning to feel may or may not subside when you get a job and get your life back on course.



Death is something no one can avoid. The pain and heartache of losing loved ones is unfortunately unavoidable. But remember, "it is far better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all."



I highly recommend you seek professional help. There are many free/low cost mental health clinics everywhere. One thing I'd like to stress is... there is NO SHAME in seeking mental health care. If more people reached out when they realized they were not feeling like themselves, then this world would be a lot better off.



Good luck to you.

If you're not working you can find yourself dwelling on things.  If you had somewhere to go tomorrow by a certain time then you would be planning what you're wearing tomorrow, etc & wouldn't have time to dwell on things like this.



Is there something you can get busy with to fill up your days?  Even exercise or charity work & you could use the charity work as a reference to help you get a job.  



Did you lose some elderly relatives recently or are some not well?



You do need to apply some logic here, I mean probably alot of people worry about getting cancer but what can you do?  You can only eat well & look after yourself, it's just life?  Why worry about things that haven't happened?  How about using some of your spare time to read some logical self help books that can get you looking at things differently?  Go to your library self help section & find some, like Dr Phil or something.  Read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, it's all about concentrating on each moment, not thinking about the past of future.  By focusing on now, on what's in front of you this very second, it's impossible to worry about getting old or dying of cancer.  Do you get it?  Try it?  But maybe you are a a bit addicted to your emotions & are actually getting something out of the drama of worrying?  I guess that makes sense if you have not got much going on in your life, like no job, etc.  I also know that rigorous exercise where you get your heart rate up for 20 minutes or more will stop your mind from racing around like it is.



I think you need to get real with yourself.  You are in control of your mind so you can stop it from worrying about these silly things.  Just try that concentrating on the what's before your eyes right now thing, if you do that, it's impossible to worry about anything.

It sounds as though the job situation has made you anxious and you're channelling this anxiety into your thoughts about getting old and avoiding the real problem.  As you know, getting old is a natural process and if you had a job you would have something else to occupy your mind, so you would have less time to worry about getting old, although I do understand your fear as I used to feel the same when I was your age.  Now I'm 51 I look back on my life and think of everything I've achieved and look forward to the future, because now the children have grown up I can relax a bit more and do things I want to do.  Your parents probably feel the same and so will you when you reach that age.  You've nothing to worry about regarding the ageing process but everybody worries about their loved ones, it wouldn't be natural if you didn't.  But go on your course, you'll probably learn quite a bit and you can take it from there.  Hopefully you'll be successful soon in getting a job.  Good luck.