So my boyfriend and i decided we were ready, but i couldnt continue because i was in ALOT of pain, my boyfriend was very gentle and sweet but i couldnt take the pain, i was just wondering will it be like this every time?

it very embarresing and i feel bad becasue he think he hurt me

aww honey dont worry i was the same way. it took me and my boyfriend 6 trys before it finally happend

but here's some advice on how to make it better



have him finger you for a long time till your like dripping wet then have him put the condom on and put lots of lube on that. then have him put just the head in and move the head back and forth until that feels good. then have him push it in a little further and repeat keep doing this until its all the way in. trust me it helps. also prop your butt up on a pillow it angles your vagina just right to make it easier for his penis to go in.



and to answer your other question no it wont hurt this bad all the time. maybe just the first 3 or 4 times then the pain will turn into good pain that feels good and soon it wont hurt at all. after the 2nd time though it only hurts when it first goes in. and then when he pulls out.

Although the pain you are experiencing could be normal, it is possible there is another reason for the pain.  If the pain is so intense that sex is essentially rendered physically impossible and that happens several times, or it is so painful that you don't want to try again, I would suggest seeing your gynecologist.  There are physical conditions that can make sex painful and virtually impossible.  However, they CAN be corrected with the help of your doctor.  So if the advice the others have given you doesn't help, see your doctor.  You might be surprised.

Dearest Bell

I know how you feel and you must of been scared. The first time can either be good or bad, but if your boyfriend would of given you allot or oral you would of orgasm-ed and it would of went in without any trouble. Make sure your Virginia is very wet and you are very excited before he tries to enter you, but don't think about it let your body do the talking for you. Don't be scared and i am sorry you felt embarrassed but it will pass and the next time will be better.

Good Luck

no. thats how i was. just relax and enjoy it. dont think of the pain. and that'll happen for the first time or 2.

try lubricant it helps out A LOT. and yes for a majority of women will say it hurt the first time...it will probably hurt the first few times...but it will decrease...lubricant!

no its not going to happen every time. it should just be the first or second time that it hurts after that it wont hurt

it's just because the entrance to the vagina is being stretched. it will be fine after the first two or so times

no, its usually just like the first 1 or 2 times.